Saturday, May 31, 2008

A candlelight vigil in honor of Tori and Dean

Yesterday I wrote about a tragic double murder that happened on July 26, 2006--the brutal strangulation of Tori Vienneau and her 10-month-old son, Dean. Their story deeply saddens me, especially for Tori and Dean's family and friends.

Such a senseless and incomprehendable act by Dennis Potts, the baby's birth father, a man who is awaiting a trial that I know will bring more heartache for Tori's family as they relive their loved ones' last hours. If the court sees fit, as it should, perhaps Tori and Dean will see a slim slice of justice. However, I believe there is never really true justice in this world.

Now I am going to turn my thoughts away from the INhuman to the wonderful and loving family and friends of Tori and Dean. I felt honored when I found emails from Tori's good friend Deserie and Tori's mom (and Dean's grandma) Dayna. I felt an immediate connection to them both, and my heart cries for their losses. But I am going to focus now on the knowledge that Tori and Dean's lives were richly blessed, by love and an ever-growing family of relatives and friends.

Right now Dayna and Deserie are preparing for a candlelight vigil and walk that will take place from 5:30-8:00 (PST). They are expecting about 50 family and friends to walk with them, including possible media. If you live in their area, I hope you will consider joining them. They can use all the support possible. (Vigil details at the end.) I wish them a peaceful and safe journey filled with loving thoughts of their two angels.

I can't walk with them since I live in Canada, but I'm walking in spirit. I've set up my own candle vigil, with angels and flowers from my brother's memorial service watching over my display.

Tonight I'll light 2 candles in honor of Tori and Dean, who touched my heart in 2 days. I pray that their spirits are at rest, just like my brother Jason, safe in the knowledge that they are loved.

A message from Deserie:

PLEASE JOIN US for a walk and candle light vigil in memory of Tori Vienneau (22) and Dean Springstube (10 mo.), TONIGHT from 5:30-8:00 pm.

Tori and Dean were viciously murdered on July 26, 2006 in their home. (Tori was savagely beaten and strangled; Baby dean was hung by a noose from his crib! The murder suspect is finally behind bars awaiting trial, to begin June 16, 2008).

We will walk from Tori's childhood home @ Fallbrook Ct. in Bonita, CA (91902), stopping along the way for a silent lighting of the candles.

We will continue on to Tori and Dean's final resting place at Glen Abbey Cemetary on Bonita Road.


We are asking for a $25 dollar donation, but any amount will help.

ALL PROCEEDS WILL GO FOR LEGAL EXPENSES AND START-UP COSTS for to become a non-profit organization to help others who have been affected by violence.

Your donation is GREATLY appreciated!

While we are hoping to raise funds for this very worthy cause, we are first and foremost doing this to HONOR THE LIVES OF TORI AND DEAN.

Deserie Peterson

~Cheryl Kaye Tardif, author


Austin S. Camacho said...

This kind of tragedy is so hard to deal with. Could it be that we write the kind of thing we do partially to try to understand how human beings can commit these outrageous acts of evil?

Cheryl Tardif said...

Austin, I think you're right. At least for me and probably for you too. I know that I am always asking myself: what would I do in a certain situation, how would I feel?

And I am also asking myself: what makes a person do such terrible things?

Sometimes I can envision the path they must have taken that leads them to murder; sometimes I think it's just inexplicable EVIL, the "bad seed".

There is so much more to this story than what I've written, and if the public knew everything they would be absolutely appalled, horrified and disgusted. I hope everything comes out during the trial.


Anonymous said...

Hi Cheryl and Austin,

Thank you so much for supporting the family and for inspiring others who may be suffering to reach out and ask for support as this is so important. No matter where we are geographically we can “connect” and help to support one another.

I truly believe in the power that is created when those who have been touched by crime unite and connect as it helped me to overcome. I know I would have never made it without the support that I have received in the past few years from other survivors as they truly understood how I felt and were able to provide a support that outsiders could not.

My hope is that anyone reading this post who may have lost a loved one or been victimized by crime will know that they are not alone.

Thanks for keeping the memory of Tori and Dean alive and for inspiring others as you do by sharing your stories.