Sunday, June 01, 2008


I don't know, this blog might be too raw for me.

All these murdered children and women - I know it happens, there's no denial there, but the real tragedy is our horrific child raising practices that get the ball rolling in the first place.

The hand that rocks the cradle DOES rule the world and until we have gone through enough generations of conscious parenting where the parents are grown up enough to stop being so self-centered and do what is in the best interest of their child instead of what is most convenient for them things will not change.

Ditto for unexamined childraising beliefs - doing something because 'that's how we were raised and we turned out alright, didn't we?' is one of the worse reasons to do something to your child. NO! We didn't turn out alright. If we did, decisions won't be made based on profit - schools wouldn't need metal detectors and humans of all ages wouldn't be murdered at the hand of another. If we turned out alright we would hold ourselves accountable for our own actions, speak up against wrongs and hold decision makers accountable for their actions.

Most of us are so shamed, on the defensive and afraid of being taken advantage or beaten down that we unconsciously shame, attack, ignore and beat (one way or another) our own children.

I know, I KNOW that as parents we love our children more than anything and only want what's best for them, but that doesn't mean we actually do know what's best for them.

Children learn from our example, not from what we tell them. So much hypocritical behavior on our part goes unnoticed by us, but not by our children.

Raise a happy child, and war and violence will go a long ways towards being over. By nature, life if abundant but we live and raise our children as if the only way our needs will be met is if someone else goes without, or we get there first, or more is better.

Abuse and murder against women and children - and pretty much everything else that is wrong with the world - will only stop when we grow up ourselves and raise out children with love and respect and become responsible for ourselves and our world.


Cheryl Tardif said...

Amen to that!


Juanita Rose Violini said...

Thanks Cheryl - after I wrote that I was wondering if pushing 'publish' was the right move - of course there is always the delete button but as you can probably tell, this is something I feel strongly about.